Sometimes we sit around and pity ourselves without thinking of other people and what difficulties they are facing. When i look at this picture it reminds me of how we take for granted what the Lord has given us and keep on wishing to be other people

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Looking at this picture of a physically challenged boy who is making very nice paintings using his legs and making capital out of it reminds me of the many things we are to be grateful of.
It is very difficult to be physically challenged and be able to make you life easy and by easy i mean train your self to work and operate in the same level with people who are not disabled.
Many a times we forget that God has given us life to live, our various body parts to help make our life easier and swift but we are too lazy to even appreciate what we have. We got hands to work with, go to the firm , start small businesses or do something different instead you will find a good number us sitting around waiting for others to give us jobs.
We should step up and try our level best to do something different it doesn’t matter how small the business is but lets learn to be always business minded. Appreciate what we have and make us of it.

The moment you agree to date a married man,
you agree to be a second class woman, and
every second class person is classified as a
person of lower values.
Now look at it this way.. If he is with you & his
wife calls, he lies that he is still at the office or
on an official assignment. You dare not interrupt
his conversation or query him. But you can’t call
him when he is at home with family…..
My sisters, you be toy? He sneaks you from his
car into his hotel room but gives his wife his
entire home…..
My beloved sisters grow up, please! He visits you
at home & you introduce him to friends &
neighbours as your boyfriend thereby blocking
your chances of getting a genuine suitor, yet you
don’t even know the name of the street where
he lives…..
My sisters, how long will you continue to
sacrifice your future? He takes you out & buys
you assorted types of alcoholic drinks, yet he will
never allow his wife taste even a drop of
alcoholic drink. Common sense should tell you he
is only doing that to get you drunk so he can
truly destroy you in bed……
My dear sisters, na your body good pass for
experiment? He gets you pregnant & gives you
money for abortion, but when his wife gets
pregnant he celebrates & gives her money for
antenatal & baby things……
My sisters remember he is already raising his
family. Oh just in case you don’t know, he
describes your reactions during sex when he is
with his friends but will never mention whatever
happens between him & his wife. This makes all
his friends see a lesser human in you……
My sisters, na your matter them take they drink
beer ooo. He gives you a few cash & you’re
happy not knowing that whatever money he gives
you is what he calls “Body no be firewood
allowances” You have his picture on your phone
& saved his number as “My Sweetheart” or
whatever, yet your picture cannot be found on
his phone & your number is saved on his phone
as generator mechanic or refuse dispose……..
My lovely sisters, you be learner? PLEASE let’s
give ourselves a proper re-evaluation today.

SHORT BUT MOVING AND FASCINATING STORY:
(daily inspiration in rcea).This story really touched me.

A poor boy who was begging from door to door to feed his hungry stomach, decided he would ask for a meal at next house. However, at the next house he lost his nerve when a lovely young girl opened the door. So instead of a meal, he asked for a glass of water.

The girl thought, he looked hungry. So, she brought him a large glass of milk. He drank it slowly, & asked thereafter : ‘how much do I owe you for this ? You don’t owe me anything, she replied. Mother has taught us never to accept pay for kindness. He said, then I thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Years later, that girl (now a woman) became critically ill, and the local doctors tried their possible best to save her life but they couldn’t cure her. They finally sent her to the big city where specialists studied her rare illness. Dr. Kelly was called in for the consultation, when he heard the name of the town where she came from, a strange light filled his eyes.

Immediately, he rose & went down the hall of the hospital to her room. He recognised her at once. He went back to the consultation room determined to do his best to save her life. From that day, he gave special attention to that case. After a long struggle, the battle was won and the woman was cured. Dr. Kelly requested the business office to pass her final bill to him for approval. He looked at it, then wrote something on the bill and It was sent to her room.

The woman feared opening it cos she was sure it might take the rest of her life savings to pay for it . Finally she looked at it and noticed something was written at the edge of the note, ‘Paid In Full With a Glass of Milk’. Tears filled her eyes as she immediately remembered.

Every form of kindness you show is never in vain, it reproduces itself. Well, not necessarily before your eyes, but it always does. I’ve been kind to you by sharing this story. And U be kind to share it with others.

Its good to be good. Always be nice: It will come back to you.

RAISING BETTER ADULTS

Everyone wants to become a better parent, one who is looked upon by others .Who said raising kids is easy?  Who said it’s hard too?  I think its all about having good parenting skills.  We all want to look at our babies when they are grown and smile saying i raised a better adult. Making a better adult begins from birth up to when they are eighteen years. After this age it is very difficult to change ones characters and behaviour, their belief and values they have acquired .
We need to acknowledge that times have changed so many things have changed too due to change in technology, urbanization, cultures, society morals, beliefs and values etc. We need to teach our babies right from the beginning what is expected from them . As parents we should teach our children what is good and bad, how to be thankful and sorry, to be responsible for their actions and above all to have the fear of the Lord.
To make good parents we should do the following.
1.  Show them love and affection.
As a parent you should support and accept the child, show them unconditional affection so that they will always feel loved and cared for. Tell you children you love them always and spend quality time together however busy your schedule maybe , always make time for them.
2. Stress Management.
It may seem strange  but kids too have stress as young as four . You   should take steps to reduce stress for yourself and your child. Practice relaxation techniques, and promote positive interpretations of events.
3. Relationship skills .
As a parent you  should maintain a healthy relationship between your babies and you. This is built on trust, make your child trust you so that they can easily share their thoughts, dreams, goals and expectations with you.
4. Autonomy and Independence.
You should  treat your child with respect and encourage him or her to become self-sufficient and self-reliant.Teach them to be creative and innovative. Let them learn to take risks.
5. Education and learning .
With the changing times and technology you  should promote and model learning and provide educational opportunities for your child to keep them equipped with knowledge.
6. Life skills .
Teach your child life skills, how to relate to people around them and how to handle various life situation for instance what to do when a friend wrongs them, when betrayed, how to appreciate other people etc.
7. Behavior management .
As a parent you should make extensive use of positive reinforcement and punish only when other methods of managing behavior have failed.
8. Health.
Model a healthy lifestyle and good habits, such as regular exercise and proper nutrition this can be a bit challenging especially when they insist on what they want to eat.
9. Religion.
Support spiritual or religious development and participate in spiritual or religious activities. Nature a child’s spiritually by encouraging them to learn more about the faith they are practicing.
10. Safety.
Always take precautions to protect your child and maintain awareness of the child’s activities and friends.Know what your child does doing their free time. Teach your child how the pros and con’s of drugs, peer pressure, unplanned for pregnancies etc.
11. Technology.
Let your child know the merits and demerits of technology. Let them not be comoditised by the media or become slaves to it. Regulate how much they consume from the media.
Teach your child, honesty, loyalty, to be responsible, caring and loving , and not the opposite. Ones behaviour is natured from the grassroot, if you teach your child to always take responsibility of their mistakes that’s what he/ she will grow up to be doing., if your the kind o parent that promises your child something so that they can get good grades or clean their room your teaching them to be corrupt because they will always do something in return to get something else. Raising better adults starts at early stages of a child’s growth.Make sure you raise them well.

  

The Game of Love

Why are relationships so hard today? Why do we fail at love every time, despite trying so hard? Why have humans suddenly become so inept at making relationships last? Have we forgotten how to love? Or worse, forgotten what love is?
We’re not prepared. We’re not prepared for the sacrifices, for the compromises, for the unconditional love. We’re not ready to invest all that it takes to make a relationship work. We want everything easy. We’re quitters. All it takes is a single hurdle to make us crumble to our feet. We don’t let our love grow, we let go before time.
It’s not love we’re looking for, only excitement and thrill in life. We want someone to watch movies and party with, not someone who understands us even in our deepest silences. We spend time together, we don’t make memories. We don’t want the boring life. We don’t want a partner for life, just someone who can make us feel alive right now, this very instant. When the excitement fades, we discover nobody ever prepared us for the mundane. We don’t believe in the beauty of predictability because we’re too blinded by the thrill of adventure.
We immerse ourselves in the inconsequential of the city life, leaving no space for love. We don’t have time to love, we don’t have the patience to deal with relationships. We’re busy people chasing materialistic dreams and there’s no scope to love. Relationships are nothing more than convenience.
We look for instant gratification in everything we do – the things we post online, the careers we choose, and the people we fall in love with. We want the maturity in a relationship that comes with time, the emotional connect that develops over years, that sense of belonging when we barely even know the other person. Apparently, nothing’s worth our time and patience – not even love.
We’d rather spend an hour each with a hundred people than spending a day with one. We believe in having ‘options’. We’re ‘social’ people. We believe more in meeting people than getting to know them. We’re greedy. We want to have everything. We get into relationships at the slightest attraction and step out, the moment we find someone better. We don’t want to bring out the best in that one person. We want them to be perfect. We date a lot of people but rarely give any of them a real chance. We’re disappointed in everyone.
Technology has brought us closer, so close that it’s impossible to breathe. Our physical presence has been replaced by texts, voice messages, snap chats and video calls. We don’t feel the need to spend time together anymore. We have too much of each other already. There’s nothing left to talk about.
We’re a generation of ‘wanderers’ who wouldn’t stay at one place for too long. Everyone is commitment phobic. We believe we’re not meant for relationships. We don’t want to settle down. Even the thought of it is scary. We cannot imagine being with one person for the rest of our lives. We walk away. We despise permanence like its some social evil. We like to believe we’re ‘different’ than the rest. We like to believe we don’t conform to social norms.
We’re a generation that calls itself ‘sexually liberated. We can tell sex apart from love, or so we think. We’re the ‘hook-up-break-up’ generation. We have sex first and then decide if we want to love someone. Sex comes easy, loyalty doesn’t. Getting laid has become the new getting drunk. You do it not because you love the other person, but because you want to feel good. It’s all the temporary fulfillment we need. Sex outside relationships isn’t a taboo anymore. Relationships aren’t that simple anymore. There are open relationships, friends with benefits, causal flings, one-night stands, no strings attached – we’ve left very little exclusivity for love in our lives.
We’re the practical generation who runs by logic alone. We don’t know how to love madly anymore. We wouldn’t take a flight to a far-off land just to see someone we love. We’d break up because, long distance. We’re too sensible for love. Too sensible for our own good.
We’re a scared generation – scared to fall in love, scared to commit, scared to fall, scared to get hurt, scared to get our hearts broken. We don’t allow anyone in, nor do we step out and love anyone unconditionally. We lurk from behind walls we’ve created ourselves, looking for love and running away the moment we really find it. We suddenly ‘cannot handle it’. We don’t want to be vulnerable. We don’t want to bare our soul to anyone. We’re too guarded.
We don’t even value relationships anymore. We let go of the most wonderful people for ‘the other fishes in the sea.’ We don’t consider them sacred anymore.

MY EXPERIENCE WITH RADIO

The last month has been a learning experience with radio broadcasting,i started my attachment with so much naivety and had so many expectations,though i was a little scared but it has been wonderful.

I have always been so shy but i have learnt to interact with the people i meet because as a journalist there comes a time when you have to be sent to the field and it is must you talk to those you shall meet.

I have learnt to always get facts before writing a story considering that you have to answer the questions of  the who, what, where when why and who.