Everyone wants to become a better parent, one who is looked upon by others .Who said raising kids is easy? Who said it’s hard too? I think its all about having good parenting skills. We all want to look at our babies when they are grown and smile saying i raised a better adult. Making a better adult begins from birth up to when they are eighteen years. After this age it is very difficult to change ones characters and behaviour, their belief and values they have acquired .
We need to acknowledge that times have changed so many things have changed too due to change in technology, urbanization, cultures, society morals, beliefs and values etc. We need to teach our babies right from the beginning what is expected from them . As parents we should teach our children what is good and bad, how to be thankful and sorry, to be responsible for their actions and above all to have the fear of the Lord.
To make good parents we should do the following.
1. Show them love and affection.
As a parent you should support and accept the child, show them unconditional affection so that they will always feel loved and cared for. Tell you children you love them always and spend quality time together however busy your schedule maybe , always make time for them.
2. Stress Management.
It may seem strange but kids too have stress as young as four . You should take steps to reduce stress for yourself and your child. Practice relaxation techniques, and promote positive interpretations of events.
3. Relationship skills .
As a parent you should maintain a healthy relationship between your babies and you. This is built on trust, make your child trust you so that they can easily share their thoughts, dreams, goals and expectations with you.
4. Autonomy and Independence.
You should treat your child with respect and encourage him or her to become self-sufficient and self-reliant.Teach them to be creative and innovative. Let them learn to take risks.
5. Education and learning .
With the changing times and technology you should promote and model learning and provide educational opportunities for your child to keep them equipped with knowledge.
6. Life skills .
Teach your child life skills, how to relate to people around them and how to handle various life situation for instance what to do when a friend wrongs them, when betrayed, how to appreciate other people etc.
7. Behavior management .
As a parent you should make extensive use of positive reinforcement and punish only when other methods of managing behavior have failed.
Model a healthy lifestyle and good habits, such as regular exercise and proper nutrition this can be a bit challenging especially when they insist on what they want to eat.
Support spiritual or religious development and participate in spiritual or religious activities. Nature a child’s spiritually by encouraging them to learn more about the faith they are practicing.
Always take precautions to protect your child and maintain awareness of the child’s activities and friends.Know what your child does doing their free time. Teach your child how the pros and con’s of drugs, peer pressure, unplanned for pregnancies etc.
Let your child know the merits and demerits of technology. Let them not be comoditised by the media or become slaves to it. Regulate how much they consume from the media.
Teach your child, honesty, loyalty, to be responsible, caring and loving , and not the opposite. Ones behaviour is natured from the grassroot, if you teach your child to always take responsibility of their mistakes that’s what he/ she will grow up to be doing., if your the kind o parent that promises your child something so that they can get good grades or clean their room your teaching them to be corrupt because they will always do something in return to get something else. Raising better adults starts at early stages of a child’s growth.Make sure you raise them well.